Cheat or no cheat

Location: Bedroom
Mood: Energetic
Sights and sounds: All dressed in love, Jennifer Hudson

Was browsing profiles on axcest not too long ago... 25 pages matching my search criteria! It seems everybody is looking for love these days. Looking through them,I noted a few all–too–familiar faces. Some of whom I know have had boyfriends for several years, yet their status still brands them as “Single”. I can safely say that not all “single” men online are truly what they claim to be.

The word “cheat” is a silly one, for it is culturally centered. It implies that we have violated the rules of the game called Relationship. Why do men cheat? or to be general, why do people cheat? Is it because the risk of being caught made cheating so appealing? Or simply because we can never have enough?

If only we could be brutally honest to ourselves, we would then acknowledge that we are by nature, attracted to more than one individual even we are in the most romantic relationship. Fairytale-like love stories aside, this is not an infringement of any pledge of love made to our lover. It's just natural intuition. Hello, if this is not the case, what are porn for? Does watching porn while having a relationship considered cheating, if one would inevitably assume the term "love' is something ENTIRELY a one-to-one basis activity.

Again, we see ourselves landed in the question of definition. What are the boundaries and how do we consider ourselves cheating or being cheated? Definition of cheat varies from couple to couple. Some might think having three-ways and orgies a way of exploring each other better, some think having an open relationship works better and some would simply regard watching other men engaged in sexual activity an offense.

In a world full of temptations and offers, it's vitally important for couples to have adequate communication and understanding over the issue of cheating and set clear rules so that we do not cross boundaries and eventually hurting the relationship.